Partners In The Gym; Partners In Life

partners in the gym, partners in lifeTraining Partners are Important

But should you be training partners with your significant other?  My wife does triathlons, 5k races and bike rides. Her goals are to do a century ride. Mine are to squat 500, bench 350 and deadlift 600.  Doesn’t seem like something that would allow us to train together. But we make it work.

To explain how, I have to tell a story.

On my first date with my wife

Something happened that I think was foreshadowing how our marriage would be.  We got lost in Cloudland Canyon State Park and went to the top of a small mountain to see if we could find the trail.  There weren’t any other hikers around.  We saw the way and started back down but the soil was loose and unstable and both of us fell. We slid for a few feet until I saw a root and grabbed with one hand and Naomi’s hand with the other.

I yelled out, “I’ve got you!”
She responded with “No, I’ve got you!”
I turned my head and saw that she had also grabbed a tree root and reached for my hand at the same time that I reached for hers.   Both roots were above our heads when we stopped sliding so we were both reaching up with one hand and across with the other.

We always debate who saved who that day (I saved her)

But what I really think is important is that our first instinct when something went wrong was to hold tight to each other and reach up for a strong anchor. What does this have to training with your significant other?

Simple, early in our relationship:

  • we created a habit of making fitness something we did together (the hike)
  • we also set a precedent that when everything’s not going well (we got lost) we didn’t take it out on each other but instead we were supportive of each other.
  • She motivates me to do cardio and I motivate her to strength train.

But regardless, we find ways to weave our separate goals into a harmonious fitness relationship.

In fact, she wants to do the century ride by having me drive to The Grit House gym in Cleveland, TN to lift which is about 100 miles away from our house up I-75. She’ll ride her bike up there to meet me and we’ll go have lunch then drive back down together. See what I mean? If it’s important to you; you make it work.

About the author

John Greaves III is a writer based in North Georgia with nearly two decades of experience in training at home. A former amateur kickboxing champion, John now competes recreationally in powerlifting. He takes a physical culture approach to training; believing that strength and health need not be mutually exclusive. In addition to his nonfiction work, John has written two fiction books, A Different Kind of Giant and A Little Lesson in Manners that are available on